Monday, June 25, 2007

Aren't there black children that need homes in the U.S.?

Yes, there are but we were not led to adopt in the United States.

In 2005 we started the adoption process with a public agency in our state through the foster care system. We attended months of classes and had begun the homestudy process. Each class discussed the situations we might encounter by adopting from the foster care system. Some of the children who are in foster care are children who have experienced abuse or neglect at the hands of their parents and have been removed from their homes. These days many single mothers decide to parent their children and we were told that it was unlikely that we get a child under the age of 2. The biggest “restriction” on parents adopting infants within the U.S. is that only 1.4 percent of pregnant, single women place their babies for adoption (National Survey of Family Growth, 2002). The majority of children in care available for adoption are 7 or older. The first priority of foster care is reunification of the child(ren) with the biological family, and children are frequently in foster care for two years before parental rights are terminated and children are available for adoption.

Domestic infant adoption through a private agency was another option, but it is quite competitive and these days there are far more families wanting to adopt than there are infant children. The process is quite different. Many agencies now advocate open adoptions where birth parents have regular contact with their children. Being first time parents, we didn’t particularly favor this option. Adoptive parents have to prepare Dear Birthmother letters/portfolios to win the hearts of a mother who wants to relinquish her child. This process is unpredictable , you are in competition with other families and ultimately the birthmother could change her mind.

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